We’ve all got a list. In an effort to find our dream partner, we’re all on the lookout for red flags, treating them like road signs, warnings of what to avoid. We hold tight to these lists of hard-won lessons and understandably so.

As we step into healthier, happier versions of ourselves, we have to confront the painful realities of what we once accepted. The poor treatment we received, the painful limiting beliefs we internalized, and the joy we unknowingly denied ourselves. But the grief isn’t a setback; it’s part of the process. It’s only once we acknowledge and process the grief that we can fully embrace the person we are becoming.

The elusive spark: those fireworks, butterflies, rush of excitement we seek with a new boo. Whether in movies, books or through a friend’s cousin’s co-workers, we’re sold the fantasy of love at first sight, an instant explosion of chemistry that signals we’ve finally found “the one”.

Whether you’re saying them to yourself or hearing them from folks around you, we sure do love to think of reasons why we should give people second, third and hundredth chances when they’re putting in too little effort.

In the grand scheme of things, Valentine’s Day is just that–a day. Wherever you are in your romantic journey, remember that you are worthy of so much love, no matter how this day plays out.

We grow up believing relationships should be effortless once we find “the one.” But the truth is, relationships aren’t a finish line, rather a living, evolving connection that requires continued care.

Whether you’re listening to your friend’s latest dating tales or scrolling through prompts on the dating apps, emotional availability is a HOT topic nowadays…But how much do you actually know about emotional availability?

If you’ve been dating for a while and find yourself continually hitting the same roadblocks, it’s easy to fall into a heartbreak spiral, replete with cynicism, hopelessness and questions about our worth. It wasn’t until I began to question my own role in my failed relationships that everything changed.

How much do you actually know about attachment? And how does it realistically impact your love life?

How often do we pause to set intentions for our love lives?

If you’re single and seeking love, you’ve definitely heard this line before:

“It’ll happen when you least expect it. Love will find you when you stop looking for it.”

Doesn’t feel very helpful, does it? That’s because it isn’t. At least not entirely. Let’s explore the truths and untruths behind the sentiment.

If you’re anything like me, you’re so ready to give love to others but have a hard time receiving it from others. And you probably have an even harder time giving love back to yourself.